RED FLAG - NARC VERSION

 Don't marry a man who is a shape shifter, a fabrication of your own imagination, a passers-by, an observer, an imposter, one who bad mouths you behind your back, a liar and a deceiver. The more you attach your identity to them the more your energy is sucked in a rabbit hole. It's like you are given a whole yard of land but you're left with a labyrinth in the dark. No light shall pass, no clarity, no vision, no future. You will forever wander and try to understand something that are fragments of his own mind, dishevelled, messy, ruthless, empty - no truth, no freedom, no happiness. You will forever struggle to figure out something you will never find out, something that is designed to be hidden, misunderstood, a mystery, a joke, a mock of your own existence.

 You are left on your own, to dream and hope. In the end you will realize, it was just YOU all along.

YOU were alone. In all the places you have been with this person, you are on your own. All the emotions, events, moments - you are ALONE. 

And that is a lonely realization, hard to swallow like a bone in a throat. And you are just human, it is normal to grieve what was once yours is now lost - not him, not the memories, not that what could have beens - but YOU. The shining, once happy soul, excited and full of life is now shattered in the dark.

Until then, when you gather all the strength to begin again and say NO to a lot of things including being manipulated, gaslighted and used. That's the time you regain your old self, brand new and knows better than before.

So please DONT WASTE YOUR TIME. If your gutt tells you he is so WRONG in all the places - RUN!

RUN! RUN! RUN!

Love yourself, and you will be good all alone - until the RIGHT one comes along.